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Marriage Moments

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Marriage Moments

Jeremiah 20

Not all of us experience the same oppression as Jeremiah felt. Some of the things he complained to God about were that he was ridiculed all day long; everyone mocked him; he was insulted and reproached all day long; people whispered about him and reported him; even those he thought were his friends were only waiting for him to slip so that they could get the better of him. (Jeremiah 20 v 7 – 10)
If we receive one serious insult in a day we find it hard to cope, let alone all day every day like Jeremiah had to cope with.
The thing that impresses me while reading through the words of Jeremiah, is that even in those dark moments, when he was so badly treated, his mind turned to God and he could burst into praise. "Sing to the LORD! Give Praise to the LORD! He rescues the life of the needy from the hands of the wicked," Jeremiah began. (v 13)
Most of us experience nothing like the stresses that Jeremiah had to put up with, and yet even when our minds do turn to God we do not find ourselves bursting into heartfelt thanks and praise. Shame on us!
Let's turn to the LORD more often, focus our minds on him and his eternal promises, and let our lips sing out the praises of our Mighty God.

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Skin To Skin

His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me.
Song of Songs 8 v 3.

I reached out and offered her my hand. She took it. It was slightly cooler than mine, but it felt wonderful to hold. It felt like a moment of intimacy as we connected for that instant on a youth group activity exploring some lava caves. I was probably only 13 or 14, but I still remember that first time I held her hand. And all too soon it was over. The obstacle had been overcome, our touch was lost, but the memory still lingers.

I held her had again today as we walked for miles over golden sand beaches and through native forest. After all these years, I still love holding her hand, touching, and being touched, in many different ways.

Marriage is beautiful like that. Touch gives a married couple so much more intimacy than can be shared with anyone else. Whether it is holding hands, a kiss on the cheek, passionate kissing, a touch as we move around each other in the home, a shoulder massage, a full body massage, sensual touches in private places or passionate love making where two naked bodies give their all to the other, skin to skin touch is a vital part of developing and holding on to intimacy in our marriages.

Touch in it's various forms is the difference between a marriage relationship and any other relationships at work, at church, or in any other area of life. The ability to touch and be touched is about how intimate we become with another person.

Touch was a crucial part of the relationship the lovers in the Song of Solomon had. "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth," she says. On more than one occasion she describes that "His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me." She tells of the time "I held him and would not let him go." And he tells her how he "will climb the palm tree (her stature) and take hold of it's fruit (her breasts). (Song of Songs 1 v 2, 2 v 6, 3 v 4, 7 v 8).

Paul also says that we can't deprive one another of the intimacy of our bodies, especially with regards to love making. Our bodies belong to each other, so they need to be used to give pleasure to each other. (1 Corinthians 7 v 3 - 5).

Your touch can help your husband or wife to feel more loved. Let's make sure we have plenty of skin to skin touch in our marriages.

Action Points

1). Ask your spouse how much and what sort of touch they like most. For some people, touch is their love language and they will want more touch than someone who does not have touch as one of their primary love languages.
2). Use the information from their reply to tailor make a touch plan especially for them.