Thinky Things

Marriage Moments

Thinky Things
Marriage Moments

Proverbs 6

I was doing the vacuuming (hoovering) yesterday when I came across a ring of ants on the floor around some cake that had been dropped. (No, I didn't drop the cake!). They were busy at work devouring the cake and presumably taking it back to their nest piece by piece as food for the rest of the colony. "Yuck, that's dirty," I thought, and I vacuumed them up.
Today I read this in Proverbs: "Go to the ant, O sluggard; consider her ways and be wise. Without having any chief officer, or ruler, she prepares her bread in summer and gathers her food in harvest." (Proverbs 6 v 6 8 ESV).
Take note: Don't be lazy. Don't wait for someone to tell you what to do, just get on with it. Don't wait for the last minute to do the things that you need to do. Little by little we can achieve so much more than we can if we try and squeeze all our work in at the last minute. Collecting firewood is a good example. It needs to be done in summer because in winter it is going to be too cold and wet.
But one job that can easily be neglected that we certainly won't have time to do at the last minute, is to prepare for the return of the Lord Jesus Christ. That day will take us by surprise. Look at the ant. The ant is ready for winter. Are we ready for Jesus' return?

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I Value You

Here is the value God has for you, the highest price ever paid:
For God so loved the world (you) that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.
John 3 v 1

The story is told of Johnny Lingo. Johnny was a wealthy trader in the Hawaiian Islands. He was very shrewd in all his dealings. It was customary there, when a person wanted to marry, that marriage negotiations were done with cows. Two cows would get you a very "average" wife, while 4 or 5 cows would be paid for an above average girl. Seven cows would be a very elite person!

Johnny had his eye on Mahana, a very average girl. She was pretty enough, but painfully shy. Rumours ran through the village that Johnny would only offer one cow for such a girl. Mahana's father started the negotiations at three cows, so that when it was done he would get at least one cow. Johnny's comment was that three cows are many ... "but not enough for my Mahana!" Johnny offered eight cows for his girl - an unheard of offer from anyone, let alone this shrewd trader.

After their marriage Johnny and Mahana went away for a while. On their return the villagers were amazed at the transformation of Mahana. She was not the same girl that had left. She was now a glowing, assured young lady. You see, she had been transformed by the value that had been placed and lavished on her by her husband.

Everyone is looking for, and needs, others to value them. Our words, actions and looks are constantly sending messages of value or devalue to those around us.

John Ortberg, in his book, Everybody's Normal Till You Get To Know Them, puts it this way: "Every human being you know is making a request of their friends, though it usually goes unspoken. Here's what they ask: 'Motivate me, call out the best in me. Believe in me. Encourage me when I am tempted to quit. Speak the truth to me and remind me of my deepest values. Help me achieve my greatest potential. Tell me again what God has called me to be, what I might yet become. Inspire me'"

How much more true should this be of a husband and wife? This is the place where we should start with instilling value! Let's become the role models for our children and families as that of great value givers for each other. Treat your wife (or husband) like an Eight Cow Wife (or husband).

Action Points

Instill value in your spouse through your words, actions and how you look at them. Start today and make it something you do every day.
Become "We" centred instead of "Me" centred.